Do you remember that moment in life when a rejection caused you a certain degree of sorrow so much so that it broke your heart? Did the sorrow take the form of hatred and changed something in you?
Well, you are not alone. All of us have faced rejections in life, some greater than the rest. You tend to associate rejection with failure or your incapability.
However, it is very important to understand that rejection is a part of life and we should aim at taking the experience and utilizing it to better ourselves rather than stop caring at all and stay angry.
Rejection can come in all forms, in love, career, friends. The key is to utilize such rejections in your life and gain experience and knowledge from them. The worst that can happen after a rejection is that you feel inadequate, unaccomplished and somehow you tend to force yourself into self-rejection.
One rejection does not mean that you stop trying or stop taking risks. It is crucial that you take time to cool yourself down and think positively to stop any negative emotion from creeping inside you. Here are some tips on how you can handle rejection in life and move on:
How to handle rejection in life
“I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going rather than retreat.”
~ Sylvester Stallone
Accept the rejection gracefully
Rejection is a very personal matter. The fact that you feel hurt about the rejection proves that you cared for the subject of rejection in the first place.
The first step towards dealing with rejection is to learn to accept it. Feelings and emotions are unpredictable and subjective in nature.
Where some people feel angry, others feels sad about rejection. You need to take some time out, either alone or with your friends and family and allow yourself to accept the way you feel.
Denial of your own feelings will lead you nowhere and ultimately result in low self-esteem, which is precious. Initially, you might be inclined to stay angry and feel dejected.
Although the anger cools off after some time but the sourness remains intact. Therefore, you should aim at accepting the rejection with dignity and deem it to be a part of your life’s experiences.
Try to understand the reasons behind the rejection
The reason behind your rejection might not always be you. It is essential that you do not take the rejection personally and be de-motivated.
You need to cool down your mind and think positively about the reasons behind the rejection. Sometimes the rejection might simply mean that the other person has different perspectives or choices than you or they simply lack the ability to understand you.
It is necessary to identify your faults if there are any. This will help you to improve yourself and not repeat your mistakes.
Gain a positive perspective
The more you pay attention to the negative emotions after the rejection, the more it will be difficult for you to move on. Anger will keep building upon you and it will mess with your mind.
Focussing on the negative emotions will lead to low self-esteem. No matter how deeply hurt you are, rejection can turn you sour and can change your behavior too.
It is said that rejection is a good teacher. All you have to do is reflect on your weaknesses that were the reason behind the rejection and work on it. Reflection is important so that you know that you have to do better and how.
Keep reminding yourself of your worth
It is important that you keep a mental note of your strengths and capabilities and not let any such incident undermine your confidence.
Using this experience to contemplate on your faults will help you to learn and grow. You need to realize most importantly that one single rejection does not define you as a human being.
Your positive qualities are your strength and you need to nourish them rather than feel miserable.
Find your support system
We, humans, are social animals. We find solace in others. After you face rejection, it is important that you take the assistance of someone you trust to make you feel better.
Having a reliable support system is a gift and you should learn to trust them with your insecurities. The person, either your friend or someone from your family, will be the person to answer your questions and tell you about your strengths as well as weaknesses.
You need people in your life who accept you for who you are and appreciate you for your qualities. You need at least one person in front of whom you can vent out your feelings honestly and who can give the pep talk when you are in the utmost need of it.